Monthly Archives: September 2013


How many of you have never wondered why you are on this earth? That statement reads correctly. How many of you have NEVER wondered? Or questioned your purpose? Wondered each day if you are doing what you are destined to do? Or asked yourself – what is your destiny? What is the legacy you will leave behind? I suspect everyone who is reading this has asked these questions, probably more than once. I also suspect that not many of us have a solid answer and know for a fact that we are doing exactly the thing or things we are supposed to do.

For me, I question this on a daily basis, even when I believe I am doing what I was destined to do. For me, as with many of you, I need and want evidence. I need proof. I need someone or something to stand up and shout – this is it. You are where you are supposed to be. You creating the destiny you are supposed to have.

Rarely there are those rare moments when I know, without a doubt that I am doing exactly what I was put on this earth to do. When those moments happen, I feel fulfilled. I feel happy. I feel so many emotions. Yesterday, I got to have one of those moments. The Lupus Support Network held a lunch and learn seminar with two speakers. Afterward, a young woman in tears came up to me and hugged me and said thank you. She said that before the seminar she felt alone and as if she was going crazy. But now she knew what she was experiencing was part of the lupus and thanked me again for sharing my information with her.

This is why I do what I do. When I know that I have made a difference in someone’s life, I am washed with emotions, and am often near tears. Can there be anything greater in life than touching another person so deeply? For me, the answer is no. For me, these moments allow me the certainty of knowing I am doing what I am supposed to do. I feel fulfilled in my life.

Sure, I do other things in my life. Certainly I enjoy these other things and often get great joy and a feeling of accomplishment. I love when someone reads the humor I write and then they tell me they laughed, or they enjoyed it. I enjoy praise for the work I do, the stories I write. I feel good about myself when I know I have done a good job with some task. But nothing brings the feeling of fulfillment like knowing I am doing that one thing that I can do well and am supposed to do in my life.

Fulfillment is not a feeling many people experience often. It’s not one expected every day. It is a rare emotion. That is part of what makes it a special emotion. When a person feels fulfilled, it means they feel satisfaction or happiness as a result of fully developing their abilities or character.

Does everyone have the ability to feel fulfilled? I believe they do. But each person will feel it for a different reason. Some experience it when helping others; some when making a difference in their community; some from teaching others new things. It seems to me, that the feeling of fulfillment comes not from doing something for ourselves, but in doing or helping some other person or people. If you’re homebound, does that leave you out? No. There are things all of us can do for others. From what I’ve seen and experienced, we get as much joy as the person we are helping, and sometimes we even feel fulfilled.

© 2013 Wanda M. Argersinger and The Lupus Support Network